If both partners agree, is anything taboo? What about the use of vibrators? Is oral sex okay? These are just a few questions that Christian women asked about the sexual relationship in marriage from a survey that the authors conducted. But at the heart of each of these questions were two concerns: What does God prohibit in the sexual relationship between a husband and wife, and what does God permit? We read the Bible from Genesis to Revelation and compiled a list of every scriptural reference to sex.
Our question is in the area of oral sex. Is it scripturally wrong for married couples? N o where does the Bible forbid it or discuss it. There is no biblical evidence that it is a sin against God for a husband and wife to express love for each other in this way. Even the book of Leviticus, which mentions many Old Testament sex-related prohibitions and rules for the Israelites, never mentions it.
They had experienced the unique pleasure of giving pleasure in such an intimate way to each other. He was writing to me because this enjoyable aspect of their sex life which had always been part of their marriage was now conflicting with his conscience. My first instinct was to reply that it sounds like his pastor has a boring sex life and is trying to justify it Biblically! God made sex. Whatever you do, you must both be comfortable with it.